Why Your Marriage Needs More Tools in Today’s World
We live in a time unlike any other. With every passing year, life seems to get louder, faster, and more demanding. The rise of technology has opened up endless channels of information, entertainment, and connection. But it’s also brought with it a level of distraction and complexity that earlier generations never had to navigate.
Back then, life had its own challenges—survival, provision, and maintaining the family unit. But relationships looked different. People weren’t bombarded by constant notifications, comparison-driven social media, or the pressure to keep up with the pace of digital life. There was more space to simply be present.
Today, we don’t just need more time. We need more tools.
If we’re going to thrive in the areas that matter most—marriage, family, emotional health, purpose—we need to approach life with a level of intentionality like never before. Because everything around us is fighting for our attention. And the things that matter most can easily get buried beneath the noise.
Marriage, at its core, was the first institution established by God—between Adam and Eve. It was the foundation of family, the cornerstone of community. And yet, in this modern age, marriage is often the first thing to suffer when life gets overwhelming.
Here’s the truth:
No marriage can thrive in today’s world without consistent growth and intentional work.
You can't expect a garden to stay beautiful if you stop pulling weeds, watering the soil, and tending to the roots.
The same is true for your relationship.
When we stop apologizing…
When we stop taking ownership…
When we stop speaking each other’s love language…
When we stop making time—undistracted time—for one another…
…our connection begins to drift. The weeds of miscommunication, resentment, and distance start to grow.
But here’s the encouragement:
If you’re feeling friction in your marriage, it doesn’t necessarily mean it’s broken.
It might just mean… you’ve hit the ceiling of your current skill set.
And that’s okay.
That’s your signal to pause, reassess, and go get the tools you need for this next level.
Tools like emotional intelligence. Tools like learning your temperament and how you’re wired. Tools like time management, communication strategies, and spiritual growth.
Recently, I sat in a mastermind group where we dove into DISC assessments, growth mindsets, and emotional awareness. And it hit me—I’m having challenges in my marriage not because I don’t love my wife… but because I don’t know myself well enough to communicate that love effectively. And if I don’t know me, how can I expect her to?
And if she’s navigating the same challenge, we’re both trying to love each other through foggy lenses.
So if you’re in that place, feeling stuck or misunderstood, I want you to know this:
You’re not failing.
You’re growing.
And growth always requires new tools.
So be humble enough to go back and learn. Be bold enough to apply what you learn. Be intentional enough to do the work.
And above all, remember this:
A thriving marriage isn’t built on autopilot.
It’s built on prayer, on grace, on sacrifice, on Sabbath rest, on community, and on a daily choice to show up, grow up, and love well.
